Pearls of Blondness

Occasionally I will have insightful thinks to say. Those close to me call them "Pearls of Blondness" because they can not be defined as wisdom, as they come from me...the Queen Blonde.

1. Life
Everything in life is temporary. Love and heartache, happiness and sadness, joy and fear. What is one to do? You must live life knowing everything will pass- the good and the bad. So all you can do is handle the bad with grace and learn what can from it; understanding that it is temporary and will pass. And no matter how bad things may seem, you must keep in mind that they can always be worse. At the same time, you must enjoy the good in your life! It is so important to appreciate all the wonderful things you have because they are only temporary, as well. It is so vital to cherish all stages of life because once they are over, you will regret not taking advantage of them. I think one of the things I regret most in life is not loving the time I spent in Toronto more. I was too focused on school or the ex to spend time with the city and my friends. It is only now that I truly appreciate and love that period in my life. It was the most stress I have ever experiences, but I learned from it and it has made me stronger. After surviving U of T, I know I can plow through anything that comes my way! But I wish I had savored the moment. I wish I had more of a social life and less of an academic life. (More on this and the social life later.)

2. People
You must identify the important people in your life and those who matter most. For too long I have not focused on the right people. I have learned that my family will always be there for me, regardless of what happens. This unconditional love and support is so rare in this day and age. It is only now that I am far away from my family that I comprehend how meaningful the relationship I have with them is. At the same time, my friends from when I lived in Fairfax, the U of T Girlies, and select Pepperdine Peeps have had a similar impact. Boys may come and go, but your friends are always there. I have been too caught up in school or work to really love the relationships I have with my friends.

3. Love
There might not be one person out there for everyone. You might not have a soulmate. But there might be someone out there, who at a particular stage in your life, is right for you. This person might not always be right for you- she/he might just be Ms./Mr. Right at one phase. People grow and change. A soulmate is that one person who grows and changes as you grow and change. This is rare. Almost no one is able to find this person, which is why it is okay and normal for relationships to end. They do not always evolve as those in the relationship do. You need to grow and change and discover who you are, but understand your partner must do the same. Not everyone finds someone and a relationship who is able to move in the same direction.

4. People Pleasing
Everyone wants to be loved and accepted by everyone. This is not possible. As the old saying goes, in trying to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one. So you have to do what is right for you, and make the decisions that are best for you. You have to please yourself and do what is best for you before you worry about anyone else. Stay true to yourself and who you are!

5. Confidence
Have confidence in yourself! Because if you do not, why should anyone else?




After looking over what I have read, I need to follow my own advice. Do as I say, not as I do. It is so easy to give out advice to others. It is hard to live by and embody that advice. (You can tell I am doing a lot of yoga...these are heavily yoga-infused impressions of the world! The more stressed I am, the more yoga I do. Not only do I fell zen on the inside as a result, you should see how good my arms and abs look!)